Often we’re drawn into funny arguments as to the importance of what others say behind us or what they say when we’re not around. Life teaches us pretty well to ignore backbiters, bootlickers, or sycophants, who go about talking ill about us especially when we are not around, and that our focus should be on what lies ahead not what’s behind us.

I wouldn’t want to be drawn into any of such arguments with respect to what life teaches us, but take a second to think about this; WHO DO OTHERS SAY YOU ARE? This was a similar question posed by Jesus during his short but profitable stint with his disciples. Even though the right answer was arrived at, it didn’t stop some of the disciples from guessing wrong.

Mind you, our focus is not on bootlickers, ours lies with the silent majority. The target group are those who wouldn’t even greet you when they see you, those who choose to keep quiet most of the times but are always observing. It could be your friend, a stranger, an elderly person or even a loved one. Have you thought about how people are going to describe you to the security agency (issues with criminality), companies, schools, or any other corporation when it deems fit to do so?

Has it ever occurred to you how some people (not expecting though) get some jobs even when they do not have any direct link with a ‘top man’ of that company? Some people are sadly serving the rest of their years behind bars because they were not privy to such a material so as to guide their way in how they talk, what they say, and how they act in public. It might surprise you to know that it is the input of the silent majority that has gotten some of our friends where they are today, be it positive or negative.

Many of us don’t see the need to put up a stellar performance behaviour wise when we find ourselves in public places or even the smallest of gatherings. We seem to be suffering from a multiple personality disorder where we always resort to compartmentalization as a defense mechanism wherever we’re queried about the reason behind our ‘too good’ or ‘too bad’ behaviours which usually conflicts with what ‘they’ already know. The 21st century individual has refused to think about the future impacts of his/her current behaviour and thus will always be wallowing in the valley when needed at the top of the mountain!!

The picture being painted by others out there is and must be a wake-up call on us all to make deliberate efforts to maintain our attitudes when and wherever we may find ourselves. Mind you, forgetting about bootlickers or sycophants completely can be disastrous because they may not just be hating, they may be pointing out some vitals statistics which will be of a greater use by the observers.

We are changing, we are correcting, we are being cautious, we are making every word or action count from this day!! Are you ready for the change?? If yes then join the train…..WHO DO OTHERS SAY YOU ARE?? Cause them to speak right about you! (I zip my mouth?)



Paa Kwesi Mensah

Paa Kwesi Mensah is a product of the University of Cape Coast where he read Psychology.

His love for humanity and an intrinsic desire to impact positively on his generation were what led him into writing.
He's popularly known as "Moshoosho de Counsellor".

Email: kwesmens@oxelle.com

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